Trip to MO

Anna and Nat with my mother and one of her home grown tomatoes,

that the squirrels did not get ahold of.

Anna on her favorite tire swing...
Me with Connie and Billy
My family...I can't believe Chase is taller than me...
Greg

Bob

Planned a quick trip in less than 24hours. Got my windshield replaced, checked the oil and tires, washed my car. Did all the laundry. Put the carrier on top of the car (me and Chase) Packed, picked up the house. Loaded up the Kids, dogs, fed the cats, and we were out the door. (Friday 4:30pm) Drove from Evergreen to Kansas City, (with an overnight in Salina KS) visited with my friend Mary, and her son Tyler. Picked up Mike from the Kansas City Airport, (Sat afternoon) ate dinner at my favorite KC restaurant (Margaritas) went bowling with Mary, Tyler and my family...Got back on the road, and drove to Lake of the Ozarks, while my husband slept...Made it to my brother Greg's house. (early Sunday am) Unloaded...Had to be back on the road Thursday for State playoffs in Colorado for Chase's Baseball team starting Friday.

My mother came over the next day, fixed breakfast, showed Anna again how to fry green tomatoes (her favorite).

We were able to have a nice visit with my mother and step father, Paul. Kids loved shooting off fireworks, (no ban on them like in Colorado) My brother Greg loved shooting them off too, I got a scar on my belly to prove it...LOL! Mike, Chase and Greg were able to do some golfing. After 9 holes Chase became the desiginated driver...Kids got to go to the creek and catch crawfish and frogs. (Sadly I didn't go...darn!)

One of the highlights was getting to visit with my very good friend Connie (who was a foster mother to me for a time while I was growing up) and her husband Billy who flew in from Antigua, where they own the Mad Mongoose Bar and Grill. I haven't seen her since we both lived in Florida.

Here are some great pictures of our trip...It's true about what they say about pets and their owners...Starting to look alike. This is my brother Greg's new pet "Bob." Can't tell them apart? Greg is the one wearing sunglasses...LOL!

Sorry that we weren't able to make the rounds to everybody. This was an unplanned trip, that was pulled together very last minute. We did not have alot of time. Hopefully, we will be able to get around again this summer. I know that some of you said that you would be visiting us, soon. Hope this still stands true. (but I am not holding my breath...)

Dreams...

Dreams...

I am a mother whose baby has died.
A part of me is missing, never again to be found.
But I am still his mom, and he is still my child.

Do babies grow up in Heaven?
Yes, he does. Every night in my dreams.
First tooth, first step, splashing in his bath,
and Oh my gosh!!! He is so full of mischief!

I see a fuzzy caterpillar while walking on a trail.
"Lookie here, my son, do you see what I see?"
His tiny finger, cautiously reaching for the touch...
I see the wonder in his eyes,
hear the squeal of his voice, see the smile on his face.
I feel the pride and love in my own heart.

I sit here writing this with a lump in my throat.
Wondering what will you think?

Will you think I am crazy?
I am not! See, to me this is real.

This is not just a dream.

This is my life now. This is what is normal.

I know you can't see what I see,
nor do I ever want you to feel what I feel...
To you my baby is dead.
To you he's not real.
To you, he was just a dream.

Author: Cheryl Haggard

Family

Here is a portrait of my beautiful family.
Chase is 13, Anna just turned 11 on April 30th, Natalie is 7 and our angel Maddux is represented by the "Pooh Bear".
No need to know how old Mike and I are...

Friends

Here we are celebrating Ali's birthday at Benihana's.
Kris, Ali and I are attempting to do our 'cheer' faces, like our daughters...

The Brave Little Soul

A photographer friend sent this to me and I want to share this story with everybody I know and even those I don't. It is so beautiful. I like to think of Maddux, being the Brave Little Soul...Thanks for reading. Cheryl

The Brave Little Soul
by John Alessi

Not too long ago in Heaven there was a little soul who took wonder in observing the world. He especially enjoyed the love he saw there and often expressed this joy with God. One day however the little soul was sad, for on this day he saw suffering in the world. He approached God and sadly asked, “Why do bad things happen; why is there suffering in the world?”
God paused for a moment and replied, "Little soul, do not be sad, for the suffering you see, unlocks the love in people’s hearts.” The little soul was confused. “What do you mean,” he asked.” God replied, “Have you not noticed the goodness and love that is the offspring of that suffering? Look at how people come together, drop their differences and show their love and compassion for those who suffer. All their other motivations disappear and they become motivated by love alone.”
The little soul began to understand and listened attentively as God continued, “The suffering soul unlocks the love in people’s hearts much like the sun and the rain unlock the flower within the seed. I created everyone with endless love in their heart, but unfortunately most people keep it locked up and hardly share it with anyone. They are afraid to let their love shine freely, because they are afraid of being hurt. But a suffering soul unlocks that love. I tell you this - it is the greatest miracle of all. Many souls have bravely chosen to go into the world and suffer - to unlock this love – to create this miracle - for the good of all humanity."
Just then the little soul got a wonderful idea and could hardly contain himself. With his wings fluttering, bouncing up and down, the little soul excitedly replied, "I am brave; let me go! I would like to go into the world and suffer so that I can unlock the goodness and love in people’s hearts! I want to create that miracle!"
God smiled and said, "You are a brave soul I know, and thus I will grant your request. But even though you are very brave you will not be able to do this alone. I have known since the beginning of time that you would ask for this and so I have carefully selected many souls to care for you on your journey. Those souls will help you create your miracle; however they will also share in your suffering. Two of these souls are most special and will care for you, help you and suffer along with you, far beyond the others. They have already chosen a name for you.”
God and the brave little soul shared a smile, and then embraced. In parting, God said, “Do not forget little soul that I will be with you always. Although you have agreed to bear the pain, you will do so through my strength. And if the time should come when you feel that you have suffered enough, just say the word, think the thought, and you will be healed.”
Thus at that moment the brave little soul was born into the world, and through his suffering and God’s strength, he unlocked the goodness and love in people’s hearts. For so many people dropped their differences and came together to show their love. Priorities became properly aligned. People gave from their hearts. Those that were always too busy found time. Many began new spiritual journeys – some regained lost faith – many came back to God. Parents hugged their children tighter. Friends and family grew closer. Old friends got together and new friendships were made. Distant family reunited, and every family spent more time together. Everyone prayed. Peace and love reigned. Lives changed forever. It was good.

The world was a better place.

The miracle had happened.

God was pleased.

Florida, March 2007

Just got back from Orlando. We took the family with us for the girls cheerleading competition. Anna's team took 2nd place and Nat's team took 1st. We stayed at the beautiful OMNI in Davenport Florida, and spent most of our days soaking up the beautiful Florida Sunshine with good friends, good food and even managed to spend a day at Sea World. Natalie and I were wrestling in the pool on the first day, and lo and behold, her front tooth got knocked out. (not my fault) Here are some images or our fun together:

Image 1-Nat, Anna and their good friends Katie and Kylee Haralson

Image 2-Poor Sophia, playing chicken in the pool, with Nat on her shoulders. Do you think she can breathe?

Image 3-Nat and her NO NO DRAMA...

Image 4-My cheer face with Nat and Anna...I think Anna is alittle embrassed...Oh well!

Image 5-Me and the hubsters...

Glamour Shots

Anna was invited to Glamour Shots to celebrate her friend Kylee's birthday...

Here are some of the images that they took...Anna, Kylee and their friend Taylor, who sadly is moving to Texas soon...

They are all so beautiful.

Hunting Rabbit?

Our friends, Jim and Mikey went hunting this year...They got an elk and a deer. Actually, I think Mikey did them both in. My friend Gina had to bring by the heads to show the girls. They were completley grossed out. Baxter was freaked out, and Jeter thought this was just a big 'chew bone.' Here are some cute images that I took...

This is So COOL!!!

I just did the coolest thing...Here is an image of my son Chase. He wanted an image for his 'myspace' page. We decided to have some fun, so we found the image and made it look like a colored pencil drawing...Cool huh? I swear, computers are so cool...What an amazing tool!!!
Oh, Had to add one of ANNA, too...

Then decided to play with the one of Maddux and myself...I think it turned out really nice.

Had to add one of the hubby in a cowboy hat...How hot is he???

Maddux's 2nd Heavenly Birthday

Wanted to share our family photograph. This was taken the night we removed Maddux from life support. The nurse with us took the only photograph of all of us together...It took me along time, (two years, but...) I asked one of the NILMDTS affiliated photographers, Art Wright from Texas, to take this image and do something with it. I didn't give him much to work with, the background was bad, the lightning was terrible, and we all looked like, well, you know...Awful!!!

Here is a before and an after...

I had this done in honor of Maddux's 2nd Heavenly Birthday.

“The mention of my child’s name may bring tears to my eyes,
But it never fails to bring music to my ears.
If you are really my friend, let me hear the beautiful music of his name.
It soothes my broken heart and sings to my soul.”
Author Unknown

Jeter Dog...

Most of you know that Alex and Mieka (our Daschunds) died in 2005.
In 2005, we added Baxter to our family...Bernese Mountain Dog. (Mike HAD to have a BIG DOG this time...)
Baxter loves me only when Mike isn't home, so I decided that I wanted another little dog.
This is Jeter...(Yes after Derek Jeter) We are Yankee Fans!!! We welcomed him to our family in 2006. He is a West Highland White Terrier.
He loves the water...

Natalie's 7th Birthday

Here are some images from Natalies 7th birthday. She took three friends indoor skydiving.
They all had a great time.

Kidney Donation

Myself and Laurie about 3 months after surgery

Laurie's daughter Sophia and my daughter Anna in Daytona Beach April 2006

7 months before our surgery

Myself and Laurie after surgery.

I am going home...

I have debated for along time whether or not I wanted to share my story with those 'outside' of my little circle. I truly feel the need to share 'our' story and spread awareness to living organ donation. This is such an important topic. Such an easy surgery, with such an incredible outcome...I am afraid that if I don't share this, I will regret it. And I have learned that I can live with the regret of doing something, rather than live with the regret of not doing something...So, with that being said, here I am sitting at my desk, thinking "where do I start?"

Alot of my friends don't know alittle secret of mine...that I donated a kidney to a friend. Please let me first say, that my donation to Laurie , was not about me, nor was it about her...My donation was about our combined 7 children. Our families.

You all know my back ground. My husband, Michael and four beautiful children, Chase 13, Anna 10, Natalie 7 and Maddux, our angel in heaven. Maddux is how my family's life has forever been changed. With his birth and death, and co founding the 'Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep' organization. Up until the kidney donation, I thought that this was MY main purpose in this world. I now know that NILMDTS is Maddux's purpose, and his alone. I am only a volunteer.
Getting back to our combined children, I personally know the pain and heartache of losing a child. I can't imagine (nor would I even try to imagine) the heartache and pain of my children at the age they are now, losing their mother.

Laurie has a husband, (Mark) and three children, Kayla 14, Sophia 9, and Spencer 5. I know Laurie through our daughters cheerleading program in Denver. This past Christmas (2005) we all suspected that something was wrong with Laurie. I consider myself a pretty private person, and I was so consumed with Maddux and NILMDTS, I never thought to ask her what was wrong. We were not close friends, anyway, so I did not want to invade her privacy.

In April of 2006, our cheer team had their National Competition in Daytona Beach Florida. It was there, talking with her husband Mark that I became aware of Laurie's condition. (Laurie was unable to make the trip due to dialysis.) To this day, I still can't tell you what her condition was...All I know is that she needed a kidney.
After talking with my close friends about Laurie, and trying to think of something we could do to help, I said, we should all be tested for Kidney donation. Everyone agreed. Nobody tested, but me. I didn't think about my decision at all. I knew what I was going to do, and I knew in my heart that I would be her match. Sounds silly, huh?I had come across the quotes below, months before when I was researching for NILMDTS. I kept coming back to these...

God doesn't require us to succeed; he only requires that you try. ~Mother Teresa

You must be the change you want to see in the world. ~Mahatma Gandhi

You must be the change, that you want to see in this world...Those words have such an impact on me. I want my children to grow up in a world where there is tolerance. Where people care about others. Not only through words, but actions as well. Our world is so hung up on 'me' Does that make sense? Please don't get me wrong, there are many caring people in this world, we just need more...It is too easy to open a check book and donate money to a cause, and think that you have made a difference. It is harder to look deep into yourself, give part of yourself (not meaning the kidney donation...but volunteering your time, your services, your heart), and know that you really HAVE made a difference. I want my children to grow up to be happy, successful adults. I want them to know that one person can make a difference in this world, whether their time in this world was only 6 days, or a lifetime. I want them to see this difference, and know that they too, can be that change.

In April, 2006 when we came back from Florida, I asked Laurie, what steps were needed to be tested for a donor. In October 2006, all tests were completed, and I passed with flying colors. Our surgery was set for November 15th, 2006. I told only a hand full of friends about my surgery. And I only told them because we would need their help with the children while I was in the hospital. My husband was not too happy with my decision, all along, but eventually gave up fighting me, and supported me (lets say 80%) with my decision. He was scared for my safety, the safety of our children (say they should need a kidney in the future) and only educated himself with negative side of kidney donation...(things that could go wrong...)

That is not how I want to live...Nor do I want my children to live that way. I don't want my children to be afraid of death, but I also don't want them to be afraid to live...I could die today, falling in the grocery store (well, not really-because I am never in one) or in a car accident -Definitely most likely (Lord knows I drive enough getting the girls to Cheer three nights a week...) And I refuse to live my life thinking that something terrible is going to happen to one of my children, and I have to 'save' my kidney for them. Life isn't perfect. Life isn't fair. My family personally knows that. We have lived through the death of one of the greatest loves in our lives, and we continue to survive, every day.

Chase, Anna, Natalie and Maddux are my greatest accomplishments in this world. I hope is that the world will see me through them...Giving my kidney to Laurie, I don't see as an accomplishment, but rather an understanding. I put myself and my family in her and her family's 'shoes.' I educated myself and my children to her condition. I visited her when she was on dialysis, I saw first hand want she was going through. I even had my kids go with me one time, so they could see what Kayla, Sophia and Spencer's mommy had to do to simply live...My son Chase, got in the car that day, and said to me, "I now know why you are doing this..." My daughter Anna said "If I had any doubts before, I don't anymore..." Natalie was just excited to see her blood pumping through the tubes...LOL!!!

I saw myself and my family through Laurie and her family. I could understand and empathize. There is no doubt in my mind that we would be praying for a miracle. For somebody, anybody to come forward and be a match and donate life to us...I was not that miracle, I was just that somebody.

Above is an image of Laurie and myself, just days after the surgery and her daughter Sophia and my daughter Anna, that year in Daytona Beach Florida. (When Laurie couldn't make it...)This is what it is all about...Then the VERY TOP image is a recent one taken showing how great Laurie looks...

And by the way, Laurie is doing incredible...And, yes, I am doing great too. And all the kids are happy. And, FYI, Laurie is going to Florida with the team this year...

I highly recommend that every person donate a kidney...(Seriously.)

Ice Skating at Evergreen Lake

Here are some images of us girls ice skating.
It was a beautiful day. Our friends 'The Haralsons' went on a long drive to the foothills of Colorado for this event. Fun was had by all...Even us moms...

Sledding

Just one day out of our many days of snow this year in Colorado...

Locks of Love

I guess that I will start back tracking now. So much has happened this past year.
Anna donated 10 inches of her hair to Locks of Love (in August, I think...). This was her idea. I kept putting off taking her to my hair dresser. I think I was ready for a nervous breakdown. She finally talked me into it though.
Anna and Natalie had a portrait with Chantel at Expressions Photography before she decided to go 'under' the blades...So here is one of those beautiful images,
and here are some images before and after...

Enjoy!

Lake Havasu, Arizona

The Haggard's
The Haralison's

Mike
The kiddo's
NAT

Doesn't my hubby look like McDreamy?

Here are some images of our trip to Lake Havasu, Arizona.
(Ever hear of it from 'Real Housewives of the O.C.'?)
We went with our friends, yes the Haralson's again. They were so kind to open their 'condo' to us, and we took full advantage of them...What else are friends for, right? We all had an awesome time...Beware, if you ever plan on going there, it is HOT! I am talking 120's in the shade...
But it did cool off in the evening...upper 80's...LOL!!!