I did not follow this woman's blog, and honestly did not hear about her, until early this week, when somebody called me and asked me if she had maternity images taken with Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep. I got on her blog, which showed only the last two posts, one by Raechel and one by 'D'. I called NILMDTS headquarters, made them aware of the situation and asked them to follow up. This woman's actions have really disturbed me, and what she did to the honest, good hearted people that reached out to her to try and help her. Then, I woke up this morning...
Early afternoon, today, I found out and it is confirmed that she actually DID use the services of one of our volunteer photographers. She conned a person (a professional photographer) that gives selflessly their time, their heart and monetarily to NILMDTS and to the families that are experiencing the death of their baby, by creating beautiful and lasting memories of the time spent with their child. Whether in the womb or out of the womb.
This woman, took this from just blogging on line, quite a step further. Having a maternity session, had nothing to do with blogging over the internet...this is a person that went from lying through cyber space, to actually meeting and conning a real person in real life, not to mention a federally recognized 501 (c) 3 not for profit foundation. Sessions like this can range from $900.00 to $1500.00 or more, depending on the amount of work done. Not to mention, rights and usage for the images. All of this is donated by the volunteer photographers. I cannot imagine what this photographer is feeling right now.
As a bereaved mother, and then as a CoFounder of Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep, I am beyond words, as to my emotions. I am disgusted by this woman's behavior, and am insulted that she has mocked each and every bereaved parent. She has made a mockery of our heartache, our pain, ourselves and our deceased children. Some of us have tried so hard to bring awareness to infant loss, the grief associated with it and ways of remembrance and then this one deceitful person comes along and ridicules our pain and yes, the love we have for our child.
I have gone through and read the comments left by some people regarding her behavior. What stands out the most is that this is being made out to be something that it shouldn't be. This should not be about peoples view on abortion, whether you are pro choice or pro life. This shouldn't be about religion, and making fun of the 'Christians' and placing blame on them for being so gullible and believing what she wrote. The people that reached out to her should be applauded. Not blamed. This is not their fault. All blame should be placed on one person and one person alone. Beccah Beushausen.